July 20, 2007
The Chankardian 12-Step Decockification
With common cockiness in the way, much time/energy is squandered
needlessly. I propose that we all practice this simple process, prior to
any discussions, so that we may proceed effectively—debate
and learn in earnest, cooperate and compromise based on merits and mutual
|How It Works:
Think of it as a
serenity prayer for preventing futile discussions, due to
cockiness of the person you're about to have a dialog with.
It deflates their motivations for personal
attacks and forces focus on the issues at hand. Should they
persist and violate, they would look like an idiot from the
department of redundancy department!
Conceding unconditionally upfront eliminates
all distractions in your audience, allowing them to actually
concentrate on your points and evaluate solely based on merits,
not according to egoistic knee-jerk reactions.
(hint: the other party may
simply state: ditto)
- I am not as pretty as you.
- I don't have nearly your kind of money.
- I pale in comparison to your success.
- You're more popular and known.
- My (wo)manhood* doesn't measure up to yours.
- Your toys are fancier than mine.
- I am not "the chosen one."
- I am quite flawed.
- I've been wrong before.
- I am not strong & invincible like you.
- I don't belong to the sole righteous nation/race
- I am just your average
There! I said it. And I mean it, even understand it.
Now, let's get down to business. Please enlighten me. But, tell me
something useful—not something I already know and told you.
To summarize: The 12 clauses are:
beauty, money, success, popularity, (wo)manhood, bling, superstition,
perfection, correctness, invincibility, self-righteous superiority, and
thinker. The mediocre minded
considers the first 11 attributes vital, and sneer at the
* Many males are still stuck with the 3rd grade kid mentality of "mine is bigger than yours" and
feel they need to "prove"
that. Some females can be just as cocky, although it's statistically
rare due to cultural conditioning in our society.
Are you representing America at its best?
Or America at its ugliest and most laughable?
It's about time you look yourself in the mirror.
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